The Truth about Singleness: An Identity Indicator, Not a Label
Updated: Nov 26, 2024
Too often, singleness is seen a negative label rather than the unique and purposeful stage it is meant to be. This distorted perspective has left many single women preoccupied with their biological clocks and convinces that their time has passed for certain blessings. I'm writing this blog to dispel the myth of singleness and uncover its true meaning for women of God.
Our identity is not found in a spouse, career, or other worldly things-our identity is found in God. Let's go back to the beginning: Genesis 2:7 describes how God formed man. "Then the Lord God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the became a living being." Here, we see the creation of man and the establishment of his identity before anything else. God placed him in the Garden of Eden. tasked him with tending it, and gave him clear instructions. At this point, man wasn't lonely-he was surrounded by God's presence and His creation. His identity was firmly rooted in his relationship with God.
But then God said, "It not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." (Genesis 2:18). God's response wasn't born out of man's dissatisfaction but rather of his divine plan. God created woman by putting Adam into a deep sleep and forming her from his rib. The man name her "woman"-a moment that signified her unique role in creation. Only after God ordained it was their union established.
This foundational story teaches us that Adam's time of singleness wasn't a void; it was a season of preparation. God developed Adam's identity and purpose in his singleness before bringing Eve into his life. Similarly, our season of singleness is not an accident but a purposeful time to be in alignment with God, preparing for the next step in His plan.
Lessons for Women in Singleness
Ladies, the story of creation gives us profound insight into our singleness. Her are some truths to embrace during this sacred season:
We are Created with Resilience
God designed us with strength and resilience. The rib, which God used to created woman, has a remarkable ability to regenerate-symbolizing our capacity to bounce back from challenges. In our singleness, we can move forward in God's strength, empowered to navigate every season with grace and purpose.
Singleness Has a Purpose
Singleness is a time to discover and embrace who we are before connecting with anyone else. It's during this time with God that we develop momentum and strength as individuals. Singleness teaches us submission and reverence, qualities that will be vital in marriage and beyond. Our identity must first be rooted in God, not in any relationship.
Embrace and Celebrate Singleness
We often fail to appreciate our singleness because we're too focused on being surrounded by others. But this is the time to date yourself-get to know who you are, build your confidence, and learn how to truly love yourself. When you know your worth, you'll step into relationships as a whole person, not someone seeking validation from others.
Focus on Your Divine Purpose
Your ultimate purpose is not tied to being a wife or mother-it's being a daughter of the King. As daughters of God, we must first seek Him and His purpose for our lives. He will cultivate us to be the wife, mother, or anything else He calls us to be in His perfect timing. Our priority must be aligning our hearts with His will.
Declare Your Wholeness in Singleness
Singleness is not a limitation-it's an opportunity to live fully in God's purpose. It's time to break free form the world's perception of singleness and embrace God's perspective. Declare boldly "I am single and whole."
When we understand that our singleness is an identity indicator rooted in God's design, we can shift our focus form what we lack to what we are gaining. Own this season, knowing that your identity is firmly established in Him-and nothing and no one can take that away.
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